| Posted by My Super Nanny

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Toddlers. One minute they're telling you how much they love you. The next, they're throwing a tanty because you gave them a red cup instead of blue.

Oh. The joys of parenting.

 

In an ideal world, an OFF button when a tantrum erupts would exist. In reality, it's up to us to find a way to put an end to the tantrum madness.

We've picked three common scenarios, and broken down how we think it's best to handle them. Got any more suggestions? Comment away, we'd love your input.

 

Scenario: Supermarket Meltdown

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What you could do...

Option A:

Pretend you’re the nanny and she’s not yours.

 

Option B:

Lie on the floor and start losing your s**t too

 

Tempting, we know. But with that comes the risk of not being allowed back in the store...

 

What you should do...

Option C:

First up, you’re not alone. No matter how well they slept the night before, or how good the day has been so far, toddler tantrums are as unpredictable as Richie’s choice on The Bachelor last season.

 

The best move you can make in this situation is to simply not lose your cool, be patient and know that the average toddler tantrum lasts 3 minutes – according to studies by paediatric neuropsychologist Michael Potegal.

Refrain from giving in, and letting her have the chocolate bar or whatever it is she’s demanding, and remember that reasoning with your child at this stage is pointless.

 

If you’re getting bad looks from the cashier or other customers, ignore them. IT is likely they don’t have children themselves, as they don’t understand how uncontrollable and impetuous toddlers can be.

 

 

Scenario: Bedtime struggles

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What you could do...

Option A:

Give in and let him watch another bloody episode of Peppa Pig until he falls asleep on the couch.

 

Option B:

Get your partner to do it...

 

Whilst these options do sound enticing, here are a few tips to make bedtime struggles a thing of the past...

 

What you should do...

Option C:

Every parent has struggled with bedtime.

Firstly, a consistent routine needs to be established to get results. Allow him to choose a book, or his favourite pyjamas.

Stand your ground once the tantrum starts. Don’t return to his bedroom the minute you hear screams, let him settle, and return a few minutes later. By returning straight away, you send the message that when he throws a tantrum, he will automatically get attention – not the kind of message you want to send.

 

Another important note is to minimse screen time (easier said than done, we know), but if you can manage to get him away from screens at least an hour before bedtime, it will be much easier to settle him.

 

 

Scenario: School Drop Off Tanty

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What you could do...


Option A

Start crying too, and decide that it’s all too much, and take her home with you.

 

Option B

Sneak out, and feel guilty.

 

What you should do...

Option C

 

Explain how the drop off is going to work to your child, so she understands what is happening, and when you will be back.

Be sure to let her teacher know (if this is something that happens often), as she/he will be able to assist.

Always make sure she knows you've left.

Keep in mind that the way you’re feeling is exactly how she’s feeling – but unlike you, she hasn’t quite grasped the understanding that she will see you again in a few hours.

 

As every child is different, we can't guarantee these methods will work for every terrible two. We only wish we could.

In the meantime...

 

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Yours in tantrum free toddlers,

My Super Nanny.

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