| Posted by My Super Nanny
For those parents who have kids asking...
Making love, getting jiggy, going horizontal or getting laid...whatever you want to call it, sex is never an easy point of discussion with kids.
Although the act itself is where they come from, talking about sex with kids is often an awkward & giggle-inducing situation.
Hence, teenagers are lacking in education about sex. Studies conducted by the University of California Los Angeles and Rand Center for Adolescent Health Promotion found that 40% of teenagers had had sexual intercourse before talking to their parents about the importance of safe sex, sexually transmitted diseases and how to use birth control.
So how to approach the topic?
Don't beat around the bush.
Answering your child’s questions in the most honest and age-appropriate manner is crucial in order to foster their further understanding of sex.
Parenting.com provides a comprehensive age-by-age guide as to how to approach the topic at each stage of your child’s development in terms of what they can understand at their age.
Use the correct words for their private parts i.e. penis and vagina.
Explain where a baby comes from. However, avoid explaining all the details of reproduction, as children of this age won’t understand.
Explain how a baby is born. Literal is best, so you can simply say ‘Mummy’s uterus pushed you out through Mummy’s vagina.’
Give your children a general idea of how babies are made i.e. Mummy and Daddy made you together.
If he/she asks for more details, clarify that Daddy’s sperm and Mummy’s egg joined together to make a baby.
At this age, you can provide a basic understanding of intercourse. Explain that sperm, like tadpoles, swims through the penis and up to the egg. It is also important to talk about sex and relationships, and how sex is one of the ways people can show love for each other.
Be ready to handle questions your child may have regarding sex brought on by its strong presence in the media.
Discuss the changes that will happen during puberty.
At this age, your children will be formulating their own values. Be sure to check in regularly to provide a better context for information your child is being exposed to. But don’t overdo it, or you’ll be zoned out.
For more info on how to deal with more specific questions, be sure to check out Parenting.com.
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